Down with Drama

For people who grew up with drama, complacency in any relationship is a sign that something's wrong. Any moment of serenity is the calm before the storm. Relaxation is surrender to the fight. And trouble is the norm. It's the comfort zone. It's the 'known'. It's comfortability personified. Drama is life in the process.

But it doesn't always have to be that way. You learn by experience, you unlearn by observance. Maybe this is why psychology is a course I wanted to take. Analyzing other people's worries made me think my own were much simpler, much easier to handle. And the drama slowly becomes an undercurrent to everyday life.

The next step is to understand that there need not always be an undercurrent. That the drama you labeled your life to be was and is normalcy. That when you say "that's life," you really mean, "ah, this is the life". That each person has his/her own cross, but the drama need not always come out of it. We can look at the yin instead of the yang, the small rainbow reflected in the puddle of mud, the warmth indoors instead of the grayness outdoors.

No one's life is perfect. Not mine, not yours. But to add more drama to your life is just adding dead weight to your potential.

If you need to go through the drama, I say do it. But make sure you can still see the good side of things. Once you lose track of why all the drama 'is', then you've been sucked in. Depression. Sadness. Death. You do it to yourself. No one else pushes you there. If you enter the drama willingly, make sure you come out on the other side a wiser person.

Having no time for yourself, oversympathizing with someone, getting in the middle of conflicts, stressing over your love life or the lack thereof, obsessing over your looks, haves and not-haves --- these are all your choices. If you are strong enough to get on this roller coaster, you're strong enough to get out of it alive.

And if you're sucked in, give it your all, and then surrender. If there's nothing you can do but give advice, listen, or experience it, then do that. Take nothing more than what you had before you were sucked in. And if there are life lessons you get along the way, then that's an added bonus. That's the way life's supposed to be. You live. You grow. You move on. Drama need not always be in between the lines.

If you regress, then maybe you weren't as strong coming into it as you thought you were.

My point? Down with drama. Live, Grow, and leave life with as much footprints as you can. The kind of footprints that people should follow.

Trees spring forth in spring, flourish in the summer, bow gracefully in autumn, go quietly in winter, and leave bountiful memories of color, vibrance, and life. We would be so lucky if we lived our lives with this same principle of simplicity.